I am not necessarily saying that I have, but I might know a thing or two about that...
So, I've decided it's high time for some type of behavior/reward chart. Something a little more formalized that can offer up a positive rather than a negative, and more importantly reinforce a good behavior. I have spent a GREAT deal of time thinking about behaviors and charts. I made a mini reward chart but I never put it into play, I wasn't convinced it was going to be even mildly effective. It was boring and too "charty." My piano students use a printout I gave them of a gumball machine. Each time they practice they color a gumball and for so many colored a prize! How fun would that be for my 3 year old?!? I thought awesome at first, until I realized she doesn't ever get gum and that she'd just ask for it if I gave this sheet to her. Back to the drawing board.... I've got it, she LOVES castles and princesses. So I grabbed some old scrapbooking paper and created a castle. The castle is several pieces. Each time for her reward she gets a piece of her princess castle to build on her wall. This way building the castle is a huge fun, reward itself. From time to time there she may find a princess sticker on her piece which would indicate a bonus prize from the prize stash. My prize stash consists of things like: cheap painting kits from the craft store, ring pops, balloons, just anything a 3 year old would want that's cheap.
Now for the behavior part.
I have selected 4 behaviors to emphasize on the next few weeks while building the castle. More than 4 things for a 3 year old is probably a little too controlling and not realistic for a 3 year old, keep it simple. After spending a few weeks on these four, I will select a some new ones. The behaviors this time round are:
-Complete a 30 minute quiet time
-Clean up bedroom
-Eat a meal well (this means no getting up, running around, and simply eating)
-Going to bed on time (this is a major disaster every night now that it's summer)
Here's some helpful links:
Good advice on making a reward chart
http://www.supernanny.co.uk/Advice/-/Parenting-Skills/The-Reward-Chart.aspx
Free printables
http://www.paintedgold.com/Organize/free-chore-chart.html
http://www.paintedgold.com/Kids/printable-reward-charts.html
http://kids.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Printable_Chore_Charts_for_Kids
http://www.chorecharts.com/Free_Chore_Charts.html
Great ideas (especially for an older child)
http://parentingtips365.com/2009/03/13/easy-and-creative-ideas-for-chore-or-reward-charts/
Here are some not-so fab pics of our castle.
1 comment:
wow, what a wonderful idea! my chore chart is simply not working, maybe something like this will
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